Haven't forgotten!

I just wanted to tell you all I haven't forgotten you! I have been occupied with a little project of mine lately. That and I am trying to figure out which post I want to do next. lol suggestions are always welcome. Please inbox me any ideas or questions you have. ( onlycauseyourecurious@yahoo.com ) Knowing who is reading and what you want is very helpful. This blog is not just for me. I made it for you.

I did want to bring something up while I'm here.

I don't know if I am the only one and who else is this confused. I was always raised to be a strong independent women and take care of myelf, while watching my mother be a stay at home mother who doted on my father's and our, every need. My mother is amazing. She is always putting herself last to make others happy and comfortable. She is very much so a domestic submissive in all senses of the word. She may be the one who runs the household, but she does it with not one thought of her needs till everyone else is happy.
Being raised seeing this every day then being told I can be and do anything I want was very confusing for me as a child. I was always so confused about what I wanted to be and where I wanted to go when I grew up. One minute I wanted to be a truck driver like Daddy. The next I can't wait to be a mommy and have my own family to take care of. The question is where is the balance? Do you think that what we were raised with impacts us as Dom/sub or in other parts of our lives, like will we work or stay at home? I have no doubt in my mind I want to be my mother some day. You can't imagine how much I adore her. She is the most amazing women I have ever known. It takes a lot to be and do what she is. She is stronger than I ever think I can be. As much as my Mommy told me to be anything and do anything I wanted when I grew up and I wasn't limited to anything just because I am a women, I can't wait to be a stay at home mom and housewife and hopefully make her proud of my house and family.
I will not lie and say I have strong feelings of where I think men and women should be. I will also not say that those strong feelings are sometimes wrong. Yes I do feel women should be at home doing what they were built to do, physically, mentally, and emotionally. This is not to say I will not support those who wish to work or wish not to have children. Women are built for breeding, caring, understanding, paying attention to details that others find silly. I have always been more comfortable with the idea of stay at home mothers and housewives than I have stay at home fathers and househusbands.  I am a little old school in that nature. I don't like sissy skinny boys who don't know how to pull their weight and instead of caring for and providing for their family, bitch and wine about nothing of importance.
The world may be evolving and creating different acceptable roles for both sexes, but I don't necessarily agree with them. I do think that if a women decides to go to work she should be given the same respect and opportunity as a man. I also don't think women should be doing any other work than taking care of their families. Not only was this confusing as a child, but it is confusing now. I feel like a failure since I do not have a career, have not gone to school, and to to pit off do not have the family I want. There is a hard line to walk when you want to grow up to be a mommy and others are growing up to be teachers, or doctors. I know so many people I went to school with that are now working in their dream fields, and I am still hunting down the provider of my dream career. I can't do it alone! lol I want to go back to school and study human behavior, human sexuality, and psychology. My dilemma, what happens when I get the dream job I want? What happens when I start a family and am that stay at home mommy and housewife? Will I ever get to use the skills I learned? Will I have wasted this time to learn something that will not actually help in my chosen field? I am afraid to waste the time, money, and effort to learn something I may never use again. You know they don't have classes on how to make a pot roast and clean the house before your husband gets home from work. If I could take classes on how to be an amazing mother and housewife, well hell sign me up!
Things were so much easier for the housewife and mother in the early days. Now it is harder and harder to be a housewife and mother than ever. We are a dying breed. There are more stay at home fathers than anything. With all the changes in feminism you would think the activists would not forget those who don't want it to change. I am a dying breed, a forgot gem, an out of date mind. I am discriminated against now. Thank you feminist movement for completely alienating those who still listen to the natural instincts they were created with and wanting to be the women they have always been meant to be.

I just wish the world could remember when women were strong, not because they can work in factories, but because they can hold one child on their hip while cooking dinner and doing dishes with the other hand and helping another child study for a math test while yelling and another child for running in the house. All while having to deal with a husband who works all the time, barely being able to pay the bills, getting lonely when you are stuck at home all day, and not bitching to upset your husband who works just s hard as you do. These are the women who deserve their own icon of strength not just the women who had to work during the wars to feed their families.

Just feeling a little forgotten in society. My thank you to all the mothers who actually are mothers. To all the housewives who actually are housewives. To every women who has not forgotten what her body was built to do. To those men who understand, love, respect, and need those women. Thank you to those who have not forgotten that when you are told you can grow up to be anything you want that this should not mean you can not simply be a mother and a housewife.

The art of eating pussy.

Not only am I passionate about this topic because I am a female and enjoy it immensely, but because I am Bisexual and enjoy it immensely. HaHa. This is an act that should be savored. Don't waste the time you get down there, enjoy it! There are some basics, and as always a few little favorites of mine that some might like as well.

Don't rush in. There are so many other things than straight to licking to do while down there to drive that lucky women crazy. The thighs are a good source of torture. Kissing, licking, and nibbling the thighs are a good way to get her engine warmed up. Run your lips along her thigh slowly, starting at the knee and heading toward the vagina, lips spread slightly and warm breath caressing the thigh. She will shiver just as bad as a man does when you do the same to his penis! (if you don't understand, read my post The Art of Giving Head) Kisses are appropriate everywhere, along the outside of the lips, and that sensitive spot where the leg meets the hips. (also mentioned in a previous post, Sensuality) You can also flick the tip of your tongue along these spots.

I don't know how else to do this but to just walk you through it and go slowly.

Start with the kissing, and licking of the lips. Start at the bottom of the pussy, right where the vaginal opening is, slide your tongue inside the lips just a little, then lick up. This will tease every little bit that is just under the lips. When you get to the clit, don't be too shy to flick the tongue on it a few times. Nibble the lips a little, flick the tongue some more, taste what she has to offer you. Roll the clit with your tongue, circles, left to right, up and down. Nibble the clit a little. (love this part) Sucking on the clit is just amazing. Suck the whole clit into your mouth, flick your tongue on it, nibble it gently, love it with all you have. Take your tongue and run it up and down, spread wide so it is caressing the clit, with just a little pressure. You can not forget to taste the sweet nectar that awaits just below the clit. She will enjoy your whole tongue inside her. You can run your nose (yes, your nose is a pleasure tool also) along her clit as you tongue fuck her. This is where I have to remember to touch her best pleasure spots instead of just losing myself in that amazing well of ambrosia. Goodness do I love the taste of pussy! Ha Ha Remember to go back to the clit. While you are loving up on every part of that clit, your hands can come in handy. Please make sure you have been generous with the saliva for this part, unless she is already moist enough. Don't stop enjoying the clit, slide at least one finger inside her gently. If you already know she will like 2 first off then start with 2. I prefer 2, in and up. The G spot is about 1.5-2 inches inside and upward. Love the G spot! In and up is your best bet for driving her crazy. Roll your fingers in a come hither motion, more messaging the G spot than anything else. You can curl your fingers up and then move them in and out as well. This one not only rubs the G spot but gives the sensation of thrusting as well. Remember to switch up speeds and patterns. If you do the exact same thing every time she will expect it and might get bored. Get creative, hold her legs up so everything sits a little differently, test another finger, or two......or more... lol If she gets excited and starts to move her hips or thrust, pay attention to it. She might be telling you something without words. Don't be afraid to just dive right in! Its like barbecue, the more you enjoy it, the more you get on your face.

Those are....well, the basics. Don't forget to pay attention to how she reacts. Her moans, back arching, legs twitching, nails digging into the bed, hips rolling, hell even possibly squirting, are all things you need to pay attention to. They mean you are doing something right. Don't always just do one thing or just what I say you should, be creative and mix things up. I promise you, she will thank you!

Sensuality.

This is often a lost concept. I don't know why it always seems to end in animal grunts and rough fucking. What happened to love making? Okay, you don't need to be in love to make love. I promise this will make sense when I'm done here.

Sometimes sex is just that, raw animal fucking! That is great and all, but not every time. Even then, remember the senses. Little things can drive someone mad. Small touches, light caresses, gentle kisses. In so many ways, in so many places.

The eyes are a big sexual organ. Remember to kind of set the mood. Bright lights are no fun if that is all you have to look at. Your perception of a situation or area through sight can effect your interest in your naughty spots. Lol Being man handled in a dark alley, fucked hard up against the wall outside a grungy bar or nightclub; that screams I'm a dirty whore. Candle light, silk sheets, rose petals champagne, soft kisses, gentle caresses, tantric love making, that screams I'm a goddess. You can equally get off on both if they are set up properly.

Remember when you were in junior high, and high school and making out was your sex? You did everything you could without actually having sex to get excited. You learned about earlobes and the neck as a sexual organ for the first time. Why have you forgotten them!? A heavy breath in the ear while you gently nibble the ear lobe, soft kisses on the neck along the carotid artery then gently sinking your teeth into it for a taste that makes your lover gasp and arch in all the right places, running your tongue along the collar bone gently teasing, these are all amazing examples of what we seem to have forgotten.

Love all of the body, even the parts that aren't associated with sex. Run your hands along her back as you kiss her, gently with the finger tips just to make their presence known. Women, run your hands around his neck and up into the base of his hair as you kiss, match your caresses with the intensity of the kissing. Most women are sensitive just along the side of the breast. Run your hands gently up from their hips, along their side and just caress the side of the breast up to the armpit, then instead of leaving off awkward and not wanting to touch the armpit, just run it onto her back. These caresses don't have to be when making out or in the beginning, it helps but isn't necessary. When you two are going at it, grab her ass and move her leg up onto your ass, forcing her hips into yours. This can be done gently or rough, match the moment, or mix it up. Having sex gently and kind of slow, then having your ass grabbed and your hips pressed into his making him penetrate you deeper and a little harder than you had been, O...M...G...! Makes my eyes wanna roll back! Lol

I know most of what I am suggesting sounds best while missionary. I didn't forget all the other fun positions. If she is on top, grab her hips as she grinds back and forth on you. Don't let her just bob up and down men! There should be hip rolling, bobbing, and even ass bouncing...that is a fun one. If she is on top then leans down so she is kind of laying on you to kiss you, she can thrust her hips so her ass is bouncing in the air. Awesome! It provides fuller thrusts and more sensation. Doggy style can have more than just fucking also, although it is best when done... well, aggressively. Lol Grab her ass. I don't mean put your hands on it. I mean full on big handfuls, dig your nails in a little kind of grab! Use it as a handle to thrust her back and forth, not all of the work has to be done by you. Remember to ask about this first, some people have lower pain thresholds than others. In my experience, if you are being fucked like an animal from behind, you probably like it rough. Lol Women, you can have a part in this activity, well all of them, as well. If you are going at it doggy style, grab the head board or brace on the wall and move back and forth to thrust into him, give him a bit of a break from all the work. He will love it! Don't forget to thrust your hips up in missionary to thrust deeper and more intensely. Men, don't forget you can also thrust when she is on top...its awesome! Lol

Kissing is important. If you want to be connected and have that sensual experience, don't forget kissing. This needs to be done, well, anywhere! There are so many places that just running your lips across it can bring chills to your lover. Kissing the inside of the wrist gently, with warm breath and a flick of the tongue...gave me chills just thinking about it! The sensitive spot right where the leg meets the hip, inside the joint, don't forget it! Its a great sensitive spot to kiss, even nibble a little. Also having your lips that close to her naughty spots will make her mind go crazy with anticipation.

Talk! Lol Words can really add to the mood also. If your banging he from behind, hands grabbing her ass, maybe even smacking it here or there, saying “ you like that don't you, you dirty whore?” might add to it for her! Lol Always know where your partners interests are or you may get slapped... I always like having things whispered in my ear. Like if doing it missionary lean down and say, with a dominant but soft voice, “roll over, I want you to take it from behind.” or “you like being my little fuck slut don't you?” lol Okay sometimes they don't always work. Sometimes I like to be the goddess! Best part of words? The involuntary ones! When your man is about to cum, he has his ear right next to your ear and you hear a little gasp of “fuck” roll out of his mouth, don't you want to join him? Lol That right there can throw me over the edge if I'm even close to the cliff...lol

Remember there are so many things that can be done. Enjoy sex! Don't rush through it just to cum. What fun is that? Make it an event sometimes. Love what you do, have pride in your skills, and don't be afraid to put pride aside to learn something new! I hope you have learned or remembered something here. Be safe, Talk to each other, and never stop getting your rocks off!