Sensuality.

This is often a lost concept. I don't know why it always seems to end in animal grunts and rough fucking. What happened to love making? Okay, you don't need to be in love to make love. I promise this will make sense when I'm done here.

Sometimes sex is just that, raw animal fucking! That is great and all, but not every time. Even then, remember the senses. Little things can drive someone mad. Small touches, light caresses, gentle kisses. In so many ways, in so many places.

The eyes are a big sexual organ. Remember to kind of set the mood. Bright lights are no fun if that is all you have to look at. Your perception of a situation or area through sight can effect your interest in your naughty spots. Lol Being man handled in a dark alley, fucked hard up against the wall outside a grungy bar or nightclub; that screams I'm a dirty whore. Candle light, silk sheets, rose petals champagne, soft kisses, gentle caresses, tantric love making, that screams I'm a goddess. You can equally get off on both if they are set up properly.

Remember when you were in junior high, and high school and making out was your sex? You did everything you could without actually having sex to get excited. You learned about earlobes and the neck as a sexual organ for the first time. Why have you forgotten them!? A heavy breath in the ear while you gently nibble the ear lobe, soft kisses on the neck along the carotid artery then gently sinking your teeth into it for a taste that makes your lover gasp and arch in all the right places, running your tongue along the collar bone gently teasing, these are all amazing examples of what we seem to have forgotten.

Love all of the body, even the parts that aren't associated with sex. Run your hands along her back as you kiss her, gently with the finger tips just to make their presence known. Women, run your hands around his neck and up into the base of his hair as you kiss, match your caresses with the intensity of the kissing. Most women are sensitive just along the side of the breast. Run your hands gently up from their hips, along their side and just caress the side of the breast up to the armpit, then instead of leaving off awkward and not wanting to touch the armpit, just run it onto her back. These caresses don't have to be when making out or in the beginning, it helps but isn't necessary. When you two are going at it, grab her ass and move her leg up onto your ass, forcing her hips into yours. This can be done gently or rough, match the moment, or mix it up. Having sex gently and kind of slow, then having your ass grabbed and your hips pressed into his making him penetrate you deeper and a little harder than you had been, O...M...G...! Makes my eyes wanna roll back! Lol

I know most of what I am suggesting sounds best while missionary. I didn't forget all the other fun positions. If she is on top, grab her hips as she grinds back and forth on you. Don't let her just bob up and down men! There should be hip rolling, bobbing, and even ass bouncing...that is a fun one. If she is on top then leans down so she is kind of laying on you to kiss you, she can thrust her hips so her ass is bouncing in the air. Awesome! It provides fuller thrusts and more sensation. Doggy style can have more than just fucking also, although it is best when done... well, aggressively. Lol Grab her ass. I don't mean put your hands on it. I mean full on big handfuls, dig your nails in a little kind of grab! Use it as a handle to thrust her back and forth, not all of the work has to be done by you. Remember to ask about this first, some people have lower pain thresholds than others. In my experience, if you are being fucked like an animal from behind, you probably like it rough. Lol Women, you can have a part in this activity, well all of them, as well. If you are going at it doggy style, grab the head board or brace on the wall and move back and forth to thrust into him, give him a bit of a break from all the work. He will love it! Don't forget to thrust your hips up in missionary to thrust deeper and more intensely. Men, don't forget you can also thrust when she is on top...its awesome! Lol

Kissing is important. If you want to be connected and have that sensual experience, don't forget kissing. This needs to be done, well, anywhere! There are so many places that just running your lips across it can bring chills to your lover. Kissing the inside of the wrist gently, with warm breath and a flick of the tongue...gave me chills just thinking about it! The sensitive spot right where the leg meets the hip, inside the joint, don't forget it! Its a great sensitive spot to kiss, even nibble a little. Also having your lips that close to her naughty spots will make her mind go crazy with anticipation.

Talk! Lol Words can really add to the mood also. If your banging he from behind, hands grabbing her ass, maybe even smacking it here or there, saying “ you like that don't you, you dirty whore?” might add to it for her! Lol Always know where your partners interests are or you may get slapped... I always like having things whispered in my ear. Like if doing it missionary lean down and say, with a dominant but soft voice, “roll over, I want you to take it from behind.” or “you like being my little fuck slut don't you?” lol Okay sometimes they don't always work. Sometimes I like to be the goddess! Best part of words? The involuntary ones! When your man is about to cum, he has his ear right next to your ear and you hear a little gasp of “fuck” roll out of his mouth, don't you want to join him? Lol That right there can throw me over the edge if I'm even close to the cliff...lol

Remember there are so many things that can be done. Enjoy sex! Don't rush through it just to cum. What fun is that? Make it an event sometimes. Love what you do, have pride in your skills, and don't be afraid to put pride aside to learn something new! I hope you have learned or remembered something here. Be safe, Talk to each other, and never stop getting your rocks off!